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Marriage Rules©

"PACKAGE DEAL"

By Dr. Larry B. Gelman

 
 
 

Everyone is a “package deal”. 

 

With a “package deal” you’ve got a great mystery. 

 

Because no matter what you think you know about the outside of the package, there are usually lots more to discover about the inside. 

 

This is especially true of marriage. 

 

At first, you can’t wait to see the other person. 

 

And when you do, what you see is what you get. 

 

Later in the relationship, things begin to change. 

 

At times, you actually can wait to see the other person. 

 

And when you do, what you get is what you see.

 

The humbling fact about a “package deal” is that everyone is always more than they appear to be at any given moment… and also less.

 

Packages generally contain something secret inside of them. 

 

On the outside, they may look pretty good. 

 

But looks are only looks.  And looks can be deceiving. 

 

Inside a package is another story. 

 

Mind you, not the public version but the private one. 

 

This is usually, reserved for those privileged few who are ready, willing and able to earn their way in.

 

The “private parts” are the single, most important key to unlocking the real package for it is, herein, which resides the core, meaningful truths about the whole package.

 

If you use the key with consistent respect, the package unlocks, voluntarily, of its own free will, and reveals itself, in the nakedness of all of its truth. 

 

But if you abuse the key, even intermittently, the package conceals itself, self protectively. 

 

The key to the key of the package is found by earning respect, winning cooperation and evolving trust over a fairly of time, space and perspective. 

 

This laborious process provides a necessary context within which testing the limits of trust can be reliably accomplished.

 

Without trust, there can no basis upon which to build a healthy relationship, let alone share any genuine truth.

 

With trust, “all things are possible”. 

 

The great mystery of the package begins to dissolve and what remains is what is. 

 

A “package deal”!

 

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