The human condition, by
definition, is “perfectly imperfect”.
For it to be otherwise, human
beings could not sustain being human.
So, too, with all human
relationships.
What each has in common is the
fundamental “human condition” which characterizes them.
It seems to me that if the human
condition were not human, then it would be something other than it
is meant to be.
And because human beings and
their relationships are “perfectly imperfect”, then so too are all
marriages.
Is it any wonder then that even
the best marriages occasionally strain to the breaking point?
In fact, virtually every
enduring, healthy, mature, adult relationship I have ever been
acquainted with, either professionally, or personally, has, at one
or more times during its course, been in extremely serious trouble.
This is neither good nor bad
except insofar as what the couple does, or does not do, to resolve
their struggle.
Where the struggle is avoided,
the marriage risks suffering in “a void” and a significant growth
opportunity may be forever lost.
Where the struggle is embraced,
the marriage experiences its reflection in itself and “faces up” to
whatever next steps may be necessary for it to heal.
Where the struggle results in a
continuing failed solution, psychological or legal divorce may
occur.
By the time two people find
themselves in divorce court, the judge - if s/he grants it - will
sign a document called, in the State of Illinois, a “Decree of
Dissolution of Marriage”.
“Dissolution” is a dysfunctional
solution or, more properly, a failed solution!
Can it be that couples just
aren’t smart enough to figure out the right answers in the allotted
time?
Or might it be possible that most
people think just fine?
