I am curious to discover under
what circumstances a parent might be prompted to divorce their
After all, parenting is difficult
enough without kids adding to the burden!
Children, by nature, always seem
to need something from their parents.
Enough is rarely enough and
“more, more, more” is typically associated with “me, me, me”.
A parent simply cannot win! No
matter how loving, giving or attentive he or she may be.
Kids are an enormous challenge.
And if it’s not something they need, then invariably it’s something
they want. Never satisfied.
Try as hard as you might, parents
just can’t ever completely satisfy their children. And the older a
child becomes, look out!
The “flapping of wings” and the
“testing of limits”.
Kids pushing with parents
pulling, one moment. Kids pulling with parents pushing, the next
Not only do the behaviors of our
proverbial “bundles of joy” challenge the patience of most parental
saints so, too, do their fluctuating emotions.
Sometimes it is really very clear
why our children feel as they do. The context provides multiple
clues to inform and guide us.
However, at other times, the
resources are less clear and are compounded by the child actively
withholding important disclosures which might help us better
understand what is going on with them inclusive of their needs,
wants and requirements.
Then again, in our zeal to be
“good” parents are we not truly motivated by the very best of
intentions only to re-discover, once more, where that road leads?
Why bother? Having kids is hard
enough. Raising them is even harder. And for all of your trouble, what
do you get?
As a parent you put your heart and
soul into your children.
They receive an ongoing gift of the
toil and trouble of your blood, sweat and tears.
When you decide to make a withdrawal
of just a bit of the interest accrued, and consistently don’t get it,
then it is easy to feel gypped, get mad and “scream bloody murder”.
Maybe looking elsewhere is the
There are other children out there.
Pleasant, attractive, responsive.
Kids who listen.
Kids who care.
So what would it take for you to
divorce your child? What would it take? Could you? Would you? Might
talking help? Or counseling?
And while we’re asking, what would it
take for you to divorce your spouse?
Is there really any difference? Is
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