We know how to make relationships work!
A relationship is one of the biggest investments you will ever make in your life, and it can pose one of the greatest challenges you and your partner will ever face. It is the one journey in life without a roadmap, with unpredictable twists, turns, trials, and tribulations. The stakes don’t get much higher.
And as wonderful as loving, being loved, and being in love is, love is not enough! Couples must learn to cooperate and respect one another, especially in their differences. Even when compromise is not possible, neither party must lose.
If one partner loses and the other wins, the relationshp loses. In a win-win relationship, both partners…win!
To be sure, this is easier said than done, because conflict resolution is not always easy, especially, when values collide, when inequitable power dynamics exist, and/or when one or the other partner stops trying. Moreover, many people never learned how to solve disagreements, and/or, their family-of-origin examples have been far from exemplary.
Differences between partners are inevitable. Tensions flare. Tempers fly. Negotiating the terms of engagement can seem daunting. Navigating the terms of endearment can feel overwhelming and exhausting.
Sadly, by the time some couples agree to see a therapist, as a last resort, it is too often too late. The damage is done, and in many instances, the damage seems irredeemable. Differences can become so irreconcilable, and conflicts so escalated, that can neither be diffused nor resolved.
In contrast, while a relationship has deteriorated, and its existence teeters at the 11th hour, some couples might still retain some fabric of connectedness from which to repair, rebuild, and renew.
In our professional experience, couples that appear even at their seeming worst can be brought back – forward, really – IF, both partners still put their whole selves in.
Couples can bring out the very best of one another and they can also provoke the worst in each other. We can love, like, hurt, and harm. Few life experiences can be so enriching… or so enraging!
Couples come in all configurations. Wherever you and our partner are in the relationship lifecycle, whether in a new relationship or contemplating a long-term commitment, whether you have been together for a while, or forever, we can help you repair, rebuild, and renew your relationship.