Couples


We know how to make relationships work!

 

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 A relationship is one of the biggest investments you will ever make in your life, and it can pose one of the greatest challenges you and your partner will ever face.  It is the one journey in life without a roadmap, with unpredictable twists, turns, trials, and tribulations.  The stakes don’t get much higher.

And as wonderful as loving, being loved, and being in love is, love is not enough!  Couples must learn to cooperate and respect one another, especially in their differences.  Even when compromise is not possible, neither party must lose. 

If one partner loses and the other wins, the relationshp loses.  In a win-win relationship, both partners…win!

To be sure, this is easier said than done, because conflict resolution is not always easy, especially, when values collide, when inequitable power dynamics exist, and/or when one or the other partner stops trying.  Moreover, many people never learned how to solve disagreements, and/or, their family-of-origin examples have been far from exemplary. 

Differences between partners are inevitable.  Tensions flare.  Tempers fly.  Negotiating the terms of engagement can seem daunting.  Navigating the terms of endearment can feel overwhelming and exhausting. 

Sadly, by the time some couples agree to see a therapist, as a last resort, it is too often too late.  The damage is done, and in many instances, the damage seems irredeemable.  Differences can become so irreconcilable, and conflicts so escalated, that can neither be diffused nor resolved.  

In contrast, while a relationship has deteriorated, and its existence teeters at the 11th hour, some couples might still retain some fabric of connectedness from which to repair, rebuild, and renew.

In our professional experience, couples that appear even at their seeming worst can be brought back – forward, really – IF, both partners still put their whole selves in.

Couples can bring out the very best of one another and they can also provoke the worst in each other.  We can love, like, hurt, and harm.  Few life experiences can be so enriching… or so enraging!

Couples come in all configurations.  Wherever you and our partner are in the relationship lifecycle, whether in a new relationship or contemplating a long-term commitment, whether you have been together for a while, or forever, we can help you repair, rebuild, and renew your relationship.

  • If you are tormented by guilt and shame, regret and remorse, or harbor deeply-buried dark secrets, then...

    We can provide you a safe reflective soul-searching mirror that you may atone, make amends, seek redemption, and find forgiveness.

  • If you feel confused and uncertain, and don’t know which way to turn, then…

    We can help you clarify your options and map out a clear direction forward.

  • If you need to hear the truth of your truth, or, if you have ever been silenced and never felt heard, then…

    We will listen, bear witness to your testimony, and help you claim, or reclaim, your voice.

  • If you anguish and agonize over even little things, struggle every day, feel frightened and afraid, then…

    We can help you restore your serenity and recover your courage.

  • If your life is at a crossroads, or, if you have lost your way, then…

    We can serve as a compass and help you discover your North Star.

  • If you question what you have accomplished or what purpose your life has served, if you wish to know who you really (or finally) are, then…

    We can help you search for meaning, purpose, and value, and discover yourself.

  • If you are haunted by regrets, mistakes, and poor choices, then…

    We can help you make peace with your past.

  • If you feel anxious, overwhelmed and stressed, if you worry about everything and cannot stop, then…

    We can help you relax, think clearly, de-stress, and stop worrying incessantly.

  • If you have been deeply injured, hurt or harmed in your life, then…

    We can help you heal.

  • If you need to dwell where you are at right now in your life, then... We can dwell with you. If you are ready to move forward in your life, then…

    We can help you imagine your future with courage, honor, and integrity.

  • If you constantly scramble, bounce from crisis to crisis, if there is too much drama in your life, then…

    We can help you simplify, prioritize, slow down, and strategize.

  • If you can’t seem to stop crying but don’t know why, then...We can help you understand why. If you do know why, then...

    We can help you cry a river and then help you dry your tears.

  • If you feel lonely, then… We can help you connect with yourself.  If you feel alone, then…

    We can help you connect with others.

  • If you feel down and out, then…

    We can help you get back up and in.

  • If you struggle with mental illness and “have tried most everything,” then...

    We might offer you one or two alternatives you haven’t tried.

  • If your mind is all over the place, then… We can help you find presence of mind. If your mind is in pieces, then...

    We can help you find peace of mind.

  • If you feel sad, unhappy, depressed, and miserable, then…

    We can help you feel better.

  • If you are encountering challenging life problems, or, if you have major life decisions looming, then…

    We can help guide you to make healthy, sound solutions.

  • If you are crestfallen and can’t get up, then…

    We can help you get back up.

  • If you endure chronic unremitting pain and you “have exhausted all viable options,” then...

    We can teach you to ‘dance with your pain’.

  • If your marriage is troubled, then… We can help you repair, rebuild, and renew your relationship. If you are trapped in a very bad marriage, then...

    We can help you choose your path forward – one way or another.

  • If your health is declining, then...

    We can help you live with dignity.

  • If you know what you stand against, but are unsure of what you stand for, then…

    We can help you determine what you stand for.

  • If you feel there is no hope, if you suffer relentless despair or feel as if you are breaking down, then…

    We can help you hope, ease your suffering, and help you break through.

  • If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, then… We can help you not be so sick and so tired. If you’ve hit rock bottom, then…

    We can help you climb up and out.

  • If you are unsure of your potential, then…

    We can help you be, become, blossom, and grow.

  • If you have wandered and wondered a lifetime, then…

    We can help you navigate a purposeful path for the rest of your life.

  • If you’re weary, feeling tired and empty, then…,

    We can help replenish your spirit and reclaim your zest and zeal for life.

  • If you are a caregiver, carrying a Sisyphean boulder on your shoulders, then…

    We can help you lighten your load.

  • If you are mourning the loss of a loved one or a life-long friend, if your heart has been shattered, then...

    We can help you grieve and mend your broken heart.